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Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Family Support 家庭的支持

Family Support

Q: Guruji, How to deal with the fact that one didn’t get any support from the family. My mother was against her children. I try to find a way in life for twenty years and it doesn’t seem to be possible.

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: 
You know, your mother and father have been a doorway for you to enter onto this planet. So, you have come through the doorway. Thank the doorway, honor the doorway, but don’t go on putting all the blame on them. Don’t blame them. They had only that much knowledge, that much love. They gave that much. If you have more knowledge, more love, you give it to others. Why say: Why didn’t my mother love me? She had her own problems, she must be blocked with so much worry and tension. She was not as privileged as you are. You know, you are much more privileged, because you got this knowledge. You had a chance to know what true love is. Not everybody has this opportunity. Isn’t it? So, just have compassion for her. Suppose, if she also had same knowledge just like you, and has been so sensitive towards her children, she would have expressed it. If she lacks sensitivity, she couldn’t express love, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t have it. So, have compassion for her.

You know, there are four attitudes:
• friendliness for people who are happy,
• compassion for those who are miserable,
• happiness for those who are doing good work
• indifference with those who are doing bad work, bad things in life.

With this attitude our mind is saved. The most important thing is to save your mind at all cost. Remember that. We hear all the slogans, save the environment, save water, food, earth, trees. Nobody talks about saving your mind.
Your mind is being bombarded by so many things around, so many stimuli, so many things from every side. And gets into a mess and keeps reeling.

Just wake up and see what is in life? It is nothing. What do you do? You take a paid job, you earn money all day, come home, spend money on weekends. That’s it. And have fights, love, then fight again, and then you die. Life is finished. And you don’t even get bored, because it is so boring. You don’t even realize it is so boring, because you haven’t seen anything better. If there is anything better and that is all you see, that is what you will do. There is nothing better in life to do, no goal, nothing.

You feel such pity, ‘Oh my God, what a waste of human life.’ This human body has been given to us, we have attained this body to know, to realize something stupendous, something much bigger, something deeper, something vast. If we are not introduced to the vast space within us, if we don’t know about it - what kind of a life is it then? It is a baseless life. There is no support, no base. Isn’t it?

Spirituality is what gives you depth, which gives depth to life, which makes life vast, which gives you direction, which can eliminate all the sorrow and suffering and bring you fulfillment and joy. Isn’t it? You know, we must realize how fortunate we all are. We are very fortunate. What we have to be concerned about is about people being happy and that they get the knowledge and the depth in their lives.
Aggression is not our nature. We don’t do anything aggressively. We gently keep enlightening people as we walk along our own path. There are so many people who are longing for this knowledge.


家庭的支持

問:古儒吉,我得不到家人的支持,我該怎麼做?我的母親正在針對著她的孩子們。這二十年以來我都在找方法,但是都找不到。

古儒吉:你可知道,你的父母親是你來到這個星球的門戶。
你是從這扇門來到的。所以去感謝這扇門,把榮耀給這扇門,但是你不需要去責怪他們。不要責怪他們。他們就只有這麼多知識,這麼多的愛而已。所以他們就給這些。如果你有更多的知識,更多的愛,那麼你就去給更多的人。何必說:為什麼我的母親不愛我?她有她自己的問題,她必然是被很多的憂慮和壓力阻擋著。她不像你那般,有那麼多的特權。你可知道你擁有很多的特權,因為你擁有這些知識。你有機會去明了真正的愛是什麼。不是每一個人都有這樣的機會的。對嗎?所以對她懷有慈悲心吧。如果 她和你一樣有這些知識,那麼她對她的孩子們會更有敏感度,而她也會去表達出來。如果她沒有敏感度,她不能表現她的愛,這也不表示她沒有愛。所以對她要懷有慈悲心。

你可知道這裡有四個態度:
• 對快樂的人友善
• 對淒慘的人慈悲
• 為那些把事情做好的人感到高興
• 不要去看重那些在做壞事或行惡的人

這些態度可以拯救你的心智。
最重要的是無論如何都要照顧好你的心智。記得這一點。我們聽過很多口號,保護環境,保護水源,食物,地球,樹木。但是沒有人提到保護你的心智。你的心智被周圍和四面八方的多少事物轟炸著,刺激著。結果它們都亂成一團而且不停的步履蹣跚。

你只需要甦醒過來,去看看生命裡有些什麼?它什麼都不是。
你該怎麼做?你有份工作,領份薪水,成天都在攢錢,然後回家,在週末的時候就去花錢。就是這樣。然後吵架,相愛,然後又吵架,到最後你死去了。生命也就結束了。然而你卻不會感覺到無聊,因為它本身就已經是那麼無聊了。甚至不知道它是如此的無聊,因為你沒有見識過更好的事情。如果那裡還有更好的事情,而那些你所看過的,那就是你會去做的。生命裡沒有比這個更好的,沒有目的,沒有任何其它的。

你會覺得很可憐『我的天,我這是在浪費生命』。
我們被施予這幅身軀,我們運用這幅身軀去認識,去理解那些更巨大的,那些更大的,那些更深的,那些更廣闊的。如果沒有人讓我們認知在我們之內那更廣闊的空間,我們是不知道它的存在的——那麼這是個怎麼樣的生命啊?這是毫無根據的生命。沒有支柱,沒有根基。對嗎?

靈性給你深度,也給了生命一個深度,讓生命廣闊,也給你方向,
它消除你在生命裡的悲哀和痛苦,也帶給你圓滿和喜悅。對嗎?你知道我們必須要知道我們是很幸運的。我們是很幸運的。我們真正要專注的是讓人人都快樂,讓他們也可以得到知識和生命的深度。侵略性不是我們的本性。我們不做任何具有侵略性的事情。在這條道路上我們只需要輕輕的去啟發別人。有很多都嚮往能夠得到這方面的知識

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