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Great strength comes to you when you sacrifice 巨大的力量是来自于你的牺牲

Great strength comes to you when you sacrifice

June 11, 2012

(Below is the transcript of Satsang with Sri Sri Ravi Shankar.You can watch the Live webcast of future satsangs)
Bangalore, India

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What do we get upset with? We don’t get upset with the birds, or the clouds, or with Nature. We don’t get upset with the environment. So, what do we get upset with? We get upset with the people around us. Our enemies upset us and our friends upset us as well. Our mind gets stuck either in our friends or in our enemies. We either think about our friends or we think about our enemies the entire day.

People become our enemies even when we have not done any wrong to them. Many people have had this experience. We don’t do any wrong to them; neither do we misbehave with them and still they become our enemies. This is very surprising! We think, ‘Oh! Why has he become my enemy? Until yesterday he was my friend.’
In the same way, we do not do any special favours for some people, yet they become our close friends. That is why I tell you, this is some astonishing and mysterious Karma – how some people become our enemies and some our friends.

So what should we do? We should place both our friends and enemies in one basket, and just become empty from within; be joyful. All these happenings (people becoming friends and enemies) run by some law and we don’t know how and where it comes from. We just can’t say when someone’s feelings towards us will change and whether it will be in our favour or not in our favour. We just can’t say. That is why we should place absolute faith on our Self, on God, and not on friendship and enmity. We should not waste our time thinking about friends and enemies. What do you all think?

This does not mean you distance yourself from your friends, or that you stop making new friends. That is not what I am saying. Friendliness should be in our nature; love should be in our very nature. We are love after all! When someone comes and sits beside us, we do smile at them and exchange a few words. This does not mean you think, ‘Anyways, who is a friend or who is an enemy, there is nothing to share with anyone’, and you walk around with a gloomy face being angry with everyone – this is not a sign of wisdom. This is ignorance and foolishness. We must interact with everyone around us and at the same time be centered from within. Do you understand?
When we are centered, then we will not feel sad, angry or possessive. Then we will not have disappointment of any kind. Otherwise many times what happens, we become sad – ‘Oh! Look, I made him such a good friend and today he does not even talk to me. I did so many favours for him and he has turned against me!’
By thinking all these thoughts we waste the time we have in the present. We should not do this, Okay!

Life is short. And in this short life time do some good deeds! We need to have Tyaag budhhi (An intelligence capable of sacrifice; letting go.) Sacrifice gives us great strength. Nothing else can give you the kind of strength that sacrifice does. Great strength comes to you when you sacrifice. And everyone makes some kind of sacrifice, in some way or the other – either big or small. There is not a single person in the world who does not sacrifice something or another. One has to sacrifice something. Where there is love, there is bound to be some sacrifice. A mother sacrifices her comforts out of love for her child. Every mother stays awake at night and sleeps less when her baby is small. All her attention is on her child – day and night. She forgets all her comforts for her children. In the same way, there are people who like to sacrifice for the society. Isn’t it?

Like a father works hard to earn for the entire household. Otherwise why should he strive and work so hard? For what? He does not do it only for himself. He sacrifices his own comforts for the comfort of his family. Isn’t it? A single person doesn’t need to strive so hard for himself, after all what are the needs of a single person? He just needs a place to live and some food to eat. A little bit would be sufficient to take care of these needs, for that one does not have to work very hard. And if he is an intelligent person, he will be happy and content with a little. But one has to work hard to fulfil the responsibilities towards one’s family and the society.

So every person does some sacrifice. And greater the sacrifices one makes, greater is the strength that comes to him. Some people are ready to sacrifice their comforts and luxuries, some are willing to sacrifice their wealth, some are willing to sacrifice their relationships, and some are willing to sacrifice their self-esteem and the respect they enjoy in society. And if you look on the opposite side, some people cannot sacrifice or let go of their self-esteem and respect in society. If someone insults them they become so disturbed and upset that they collapse. That is their weakness. We must observe all this.

So, a person who makes great sacrifices attains great strength.
If a person has nothing to sacrifice, and says that I have sacrificed everything - that too is not correct. Despite having everything and fulfilling all duties and responsibilities, a person should have the sense of sacrifice in his mind (Tyaag Buddhi). That is the best.

See, a saint can always say, ‘I have nothing, not even a hut for myself. I have made such a great sacrifice.’ But I do not consider that as sacrifice because he has no duties or responsibilities to fulfil. But on the other hand, one who has to manage the responsibilities of a huge Ashram and run such a large organization with so many people; and yet does all that with a sense of sacrifice and detachment then that is the supreme way of all. This is the way of Lord Krishna.

Arjun said to Lord Krishna, ‘I am leaving everything and going to the Himalayas. I do not wish to do battle against my dear ones and neither do I want to enjoy the luxuries of the royal life. Why should I do all this? Krishna, why do you force me to go to battle? Let me go. I want to go to the Himalayas’ Then Lord Krishna said, ‘No, you should not do that. You must not abandon your Dharma (duty), rather you must detach yourself from the fruits of your action.’

Do everything. Fulfil all your duties and responsibilities and still stay detached with a sense of sacrifice. Take the responsibility of the leadership of the country and still have a sense of detachment and sacrifice in your mind.

Saint Kabir sang a beautiful verse which said,'Krodh na choda Jhooth na choda, Krodh na choda Jhooth na choda, Satya vachan kyo chod diya tune, Naam japan kyo chod diya’
(You have not given up telling lies, nor your ange. Then why have you given up speaking the truth and righteous words; Why have you given up chanting the name of the Lord!)

One should only give up japa (chanting) when the consciousness completely ripens with the chanting of His name. From Japa you should progress towards Ajapa (practice of japa without the mental effort normally needed to repeat the mantra). But if you leave japa beforehand, then that is wrong. For example, you board a bus from one station and depending on where you want to go, you get off the bus at that station. Now you can’t say, ‘Why board the bus when I anyway have to get off from it.’ Some people think like this. They do not understand that where you board the bus from and where you get off the bus are two different spots. You get on at one place and you get off at another place. Similarly, your state of consciousness before chanting and your state of consciousness after chanting is different. So, the flow of life should always move in this direction.

So, sacrifice is important. Without sacrifice, one’s mind becomes so heavy. A person who is detached and has a sense of sacrifice does not get carried away by any amount of praise given to him. Such praises do not enter his mind.
A Gyaani (knowledgeable one), Tyaagi (one who is detached and has a sense of sacrifice) and Bhakt (devotee) do not get disturbed or carried away by praise and admiration. Otherwise, the same praise and admiration becomes a burden to one who is not detached and who does not have a sense of sacrifice. Love and admiration too can become a burden. And when that happens, they try to unburden themselves by running away from it. Many love marriages have fallen apart because of this only. One partner expresses so much love towards the other, and the other is not able to handle it. The other person then feels like running away. And they do run away! How many people have seen this happen? (Many raise their hands)

 Many people come to me and say, ‘I am in love with this person. Yet whomsoever I love, they run away from me.’ I tell them, ‘Oh! Don’t express so much love day and night that they get bored and irritated with it.’
In countries abroad that is what they do. One goes running after the other saying, ‘Honey, Honey’, all the time. And then what happens? They suffer from diabetes!
Every now and then they will say, ‘Honey, Honey’, and then one fine day they get fed up and say, ‘I can’t stand you.’ One should not go overboard in expressing their love.
In India, it is the opposite. The people never used to express love. If you would go to the Indian villages, you will find that they don’t express love at all. They keep it in their hearts but they don’t express it. And abroad they express it so much that love just vanishes! It just doesn’t stay.

Love should be planted like a seed. If you sow the seed too deep into the earth, then it won’t sprout. If you plant a seed ten feet deep into the ground, it will die. This is the situation in the villages in India. There are couples who spend their entire lifetime staying together, yet they never express their love for each other. And the situation is exactly opposite in the cities and abroad. There they keep on saying, ‘I love you’, every now and then and because of this, love fails. Then the relationship becomes formal, like saying ‘Sorry’ or ‘Thank You’.

Someone just simply offers you a glass of water and you say, ‘Thank you so much!’ What is the point of saying thank you so much? The glass was on the table and they picked it up and gave it to you and you say, ‘Thank you so much.’
Yes, had you been in a desert for three days without water and then someone came and gave you a glass of water and you said, ‘Thank you so much’, then there can be some honesty in that.
We are so formal in our own house. If someone in the house offers us a glass of water or something to eat, and we say, ‘Thank you so much!’ then there is no meaning in that Our words should aim to honestly express the depth of the feeling. Words cannot completely express the depth of feelings, but feelings needs to be wrapped with the precise words and then expressed. Otherwise, it is very difficult to convey one’s true feelings. That is why the words we use are important, and this is how language should be put to use.

In Kannada, there is a very beautiful verse which says, ‘When you speak, your words should be like a necklace of beautiful pearls. It should be pure like the white pearl, it should shine like a diamond, and it should be transparent like a crystal. And the effect of your speech should be such that even Lord Shiva should nod his head in agreement.’
Lord Shiva is generally very calm and quiet. But your speech should be such that even Lord Shiva should nod and say, ‘Yes, that is true! That is correct.’
Your speech should appeal even to Lord Shiva.

巨大的力量是来自于你的牺牲

以下是和古儒吉的唱场谈话内容,你也可以在此观看网上直播 
印度,班加罗尔

 我们为了什么而懊恼?我们不会为了鸟儿,或者是云朵,或是大自然而感到懊恼。我们不会因为环境而感到懊恼。到底我们是因为什么而懊恼呢?我们是因为周围的人而感到懊恼。我们的敌人让我们懊恼,我们的朋友也是。我们的心智卡在朋友和敌人之间。我们一整天都在想着我们的朋友或是我们的敌人。

有些人就算我们没有对他们做些什么但是他们还是和我们敌对了。很多人都有这个经验。我们没有做些什么对不起他们的事情;我们也没有对他们胡作非为,但是他们还是成了我们的敌人。这真是让人惊讶!我们会想『噢!为什么他会是我的敌人,到昨天为止我们都还是朋友呀。』
同样的,有些人我们并没有特别为他做些什么,但是他们却成了我们的好朋友。所以这就是为什么我告诉你,这是些精彩和神秘的因果——别人是如何成为我们的敌人或是朋友的

那我们应该怎么做呢?我们应该把我们的敌人和朋友都放在一个篮子里,然后从里面掏空;变成喜悦。这一切的发生(一些人成为了朋友和敌人)是一些法则在运作着的,而我们也不知道那是从哪里来的。我们也不能确保别人对我们的感觉会不会改变,对我们有益或是无益。我们是无法知道的。这就是为什么我们应该把绝对的信心放在神及本我上,而不是友谊和敌对上。我们不应该浪费时间去想我们的朋友和敌人。你们怎么说?

但这并不是说我们要和朋友保持距离,或是停止结交新朋友。这不是我的意思。我们的本质应该是友善的;以及爱。无论如何我们都是被爱的!当一个人来到并坐在我们旁边,我们会对他们微笑然后交谈几句。这不表示你在想『反正谁是朋友,谁又是是敌人呢,这里没有什么可以和他们分享的』,然后你到哪里都带着愁眉苦脸去面对别人——这不是有智慧的现象。这是无知和愚蠢的。我们需要去和别人互动,但是我们还是需要在内在保持中心点,这样我们就不会感到伤心,生气或是去占有。然后我们就不会有任何形式的失望。要不然通常发生的是,我们会变得很伤心——『你看吧,我把他当成那么好的朋友,但是今天他连对我说话都不要了。我帮助过他那么多,但是他却背叛了我!』
这样想的话就浪费了我们当下的时间。所以不要这样做,好吗!

生命很短暂。这么短暂的生命我们要去行善!我们需要有Tyaag budhhi (牺牲的智慧;放下。)牺牲带给我们巨大的力量。再也没有比牺牲能带给你更大的力量的了。当你牺牲的时候,你会得到极大的力量。每一个人都在不同的情况下做出牺牲——无论是小的或是大的。这个世界上没有一个人是没有牺牲过任何东西的。任何一个人都需要牺牲些什么。在拥有爱的同时,也是需要些牺牲的时候。一个母亲为了对孩子的爱而牺牲了自己的舒适感。当孩子还小的时候,每个母亲都会睡得很少的连夜照顾她的宝宝。她所有的注意力都在她的小孩身上——日日夜夜。她完全因为她的小孩而忘了自己的舒适感。同样的,也有些人会为了社会做出牺牲对吗?

就像一个父亲努力工作为了赚钱养家。要不然他何必那么拼命工作呢?为了什么?他不是为了自己而做的。他牺牲了自己的舒适感为了让家人可以活得舒服。对吗?一个单身的人是不需要为了自己那么拼命的,毕竟一个人又需要些什么呢?他只需要一个住的地方和一些吃的食物。一丁点就可以照顾到这些需要了;为了这些,一个人是不需要太努力工作。如果他是个聪慧的人,就算只有少许的东西他也会觉得快乐和满足了。一个人必须要努力工作来完成他对家庭和社会的责任。

所以每一个人都会有些牺牲。越大的牺牲就会带给他越大的力量。有些人愿意牺牲他们的舒适感和繁荣富贵,有些愿意牺牲财富,有些愿意牺牲人与人的关系,有些也愿意牺牲他们的自尊和社会对他们的尊重。反过来看,有些人不能牺牲和放下自己的自尊和社会对他们的尊重。如果有人侮辱他们的时候,他们就会觉得很沮丧和不安,有些更因为这样而崩溃。这就是他们的弱点。我们一定要去观察到这一些。

所以一个可以做出很大牺牲的人,他就可以得到很大的力量。
如果一个人没有什么好牺牲的,然而他却说『我牺牲了一切』——这也是不对的。尽管有了一切,也完成了一切的任务和责任,一个人还是需要有要去牺牲的心念 (Tyaag Buddhi)。这才是最好的。

一个圣者可以常常说『我什么都没有,就连一间小茅屋也没有。我的牺牲是何其多啊。』但是我不会把那当成是牺牲,因为他并没有任务和责任需要去完成。但是如果一个人需要去管理一个大型的静心所,一个那么庞大的组织以及那么多的人;但是同一时间还可以以一个牺牲和无念的心,这才是最高的境界。这就是主奎师那的方式。

阿琼(Arjun)对主奎师那说:『我要离开这一切,到喜马拉雅山去。我不想继续在战争里对抗那些我挚爱的人,我也不想在享受这些贵族们的荣华富贵。我为什么需要做这些呀?奎师那,为什么你要强迫我去战争?让我离开吧。我要到喜马拉雅山去。』然而主奎师那说道:『不,你不可以那么做。你不可以遗弃你的法(Dharma ——任务),但你得把自己从你的行动的后果里脱离出来。』

去做任何的事情。去完成你的任务和责任,但同时也要从牺牲的心念里脱离出来。扛起做国家领袖的责任,但还是要保持那个牺牲和无念的心。
 圣卡比尔圣人朗诵过一段美丽的诗句“Krodh na choda Jhooth na choda, Krodh na choda Jhooth na choda, Satya vachan kyo chod diya tune, Naam japan kyo chod diya” (意思是:你从没有放弃过说谎话,更没有放弃过你的愤怒。可是为什么你却放弃了说出真相和正义的话语;为什么你却放弃唱诵神的名字呢!)

一个人只能在他的意识已经完全苏醒后才可以放弃japa (唱诵)祂的名字。从唱诵(Japa),你才能迈向Ajapa(不废心力的持续练习唱诵)前进。但是如果你在那之前就放弃了唱诵,这是不对的。就比如说,你在一个车站依据你要到的终点搭巴士,你就会在那个终点才下车。你不能说『为什么需要上巴士呢,反正待会儿也是需要下车。』有一些人是那样想的。他们不明白当你在一个车站上车,然后在另一个车站下车的时候,这两者间已经是不同的地点了。你在一个地方上车,然后才在另一个地方下车。同样的,你的意识的状态在你唱诵前后是不一样的。所以生命的流动应该时时往这一方面前进。

所以牺牲是很重要的。没有牺牲,一个人的心智是沉重的。一个人如果无念,而且有要牺牲的心念,他是不轻易因为任何的赞美而随波逐流的。这些赞美都不会进入到他的心智里。
一个Gyaani (有知识的人),Tyaagi (一个已经放下,也有要牺牲的心的人)和 Bhakt (奉献者)不会轻易被困扰或是被赞美和被别人的赏识冲昏头脑。爱和被别人的赏识也是会变成负担。当这些发生的时候,他们就会尝试要把一切抛下然后逃走。很多因为爱情而结婚的婚姻最后也是也以分离收场,就是这样的原因。其中一个伴侣对另一半表示了太多的爱,而对法却无法处理这些爱,这就造成他们有了要逃走的心理。结果他们就这样逃跑了!你们有见过这样的事情吗?(很多人举起他们的手)

很多人来对我说『我爱上了这个人。但是凡是我爱上的人,他们都离我而去。』我就告诉他们 『不要日日夜夜不停的表示你的爱,这会让他们恼怒和发闷的。』
这就是国外一些国家的人的做法。一个人紧跟着另一个人然后不停的呼叫『蜜糖,蜜糖』,结果怎么啦?他们得了糖尿病了!他们无时无刻都在说『蜜糖,蜜糖』,然后有一天对方突然厌倦了就说道『我再也忍受不了你了!』。一个人不应该太过分的去显示他们的爱。在印度,那是相反的。人们从来都不表示爱。如果你来到印度的村落,你会发现他们完全都不把爱表现出来。他们把爱放在心里但就是不把它表现出来。在国外,人们是那么宽泛的表示爱,然而它却消失了!这样的爱不长久啊。

爱应该是要像种子般。如果你把那种子种在太深的地里,他们是不会发芽的。如果你把它种在十尺深的地方,它会枯萎。这就是在印度村落的情况。有些夫妇和彼此共度了一生,但是他们从来没有和对方表示爱。在国外就是完全的相反。他们时不时都不断的说『我爱你』,结果爱也就失败了。结果这段关系变成公式化,就像是说『对不起』和『谢谢』那样。

有人只是不经意的倒杯水给你,结果你对他说『非常谢谢你!』。说『非常谢谢你!』又有什么意义呢?那杯水就在桌上,他们只是顺手把它拿起来交给你,结果你就说『非常谢谢你!』
如果你已经在沙漠里三天了,而且没有水喝。突然有人来给了你杯水,然后你就说『非常谢谢你!』,这样一来这些话里还有些诚意在。
我们连在自己的家里也是那么的正式。如果家里的成员倒了杯水给你,你就说『非常谢谢你!』,那么这句话是没有意义的。
我们的言语应该是要朝向诚实和深度的去表达感受。语言无法完整及有深度的表达情感,但是情感必须以适当的语言来包装然后才表达出来。不然要去传达一个人的真感情是非常难的。所以我们说运用的言语很重要,这也是语言的用途。

 在卡纳达语里有个非常美丽的诗句是这么说道的:“『当你说话的时候,你的言语必须要像珍珠项链那么漂亮。它必须要像白珍珠那样的纯洁,它必须要像钻石那么闪亮,它必须要像水晶那么晶莹剔透。而你的言语的效果必须要好得连湿婆神都会点头同意。』湿婆神是个很平静和安静的。你的言语应该要让祂都会点头说“『是的,那是对的!那是正确的!』你的话语应该要连湿婆神都会被吸引的。

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