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Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Tenali Rama and Secrets of Happiness

Secrets to Happiness
Tenali Ramakrishna, fondly remembered as Tenali Rama, was a 16th-century court poet at the Vijayanagara Empire in India. He hailed from a town called Tenali. He is remembered even today for his extraordinary wit, brilliance and wisdom.


What is it that we want in life? We may have a long list ready – ranging from scoring 100% in the maths exam to learning bungee jumping to getting our daughter married. However, the ultimate goal of each activity is to bring happiness. How do we live life happily rather than live life seeking happiness?

#1: Be Happy, NOW!

Enjoying the gentle sea breeze, lying on a hammock, Tenali Rama’s friend wore a dreamy broad smile on his face.
Tenali : “Why are you smiling all by yourself?”
Friend : “I’m thinking of the day when I will be truly happy”.
Tenali : When is that?
Friend : When I can have a house of my own by the sea, a comfortable car, a healthy bank balance, get married to a pretty girl, have four sons, get them educated so that they get a good job, earn a lot of money, and…
Tenali (Interrupting) : I get the picture, but what will you do after all that?
Friend : Then I can simply put up my feet and relax and enjoy the gentle breeze and the sun on my face.
Tenali : But my friend, you are doing that now itself – without having to do all that hard work!

Have you seen how we normally keep postponing our happiness? For instance, if you are in school, you think: ‘Once I am done with school, I’ll be happy!” Then, it’s college, job, and the list goes on. You fulfill one desire, there is a temporary sense of happiness and even before you know it, you start looking for happiness in something else – ‘If only I find my ideal life partner, I’ll be happy’, and then ‘If I get promoted, I’ll be happy’, and this chain continues.

Happiness is nowhere in the future! Think about it – can you be happy yesterday or tomorrow? You can only plan for it but you can be happy NOW, isn’t it? How can we be happy and do everything in life rather than do everything one after the other just to find happiness? Meditation is your answer. Meditation brings your mind to the present moment where true happiness lies and gives you the strength to smile every moment.

#2: Be content with what you have

Once Tenali Rama saw a man on the road holding a big round shield over his head in the direction of the sun. Curious to know what the man was trying to do, Tenali Rama went up to him and enquired.

Tenali : What are you doing?
Man : I am trying to hide the sun. It is too bright.
Tenali : My friend, why are you troubling yourself so much? I have a simpler solution to your problem.”
Saying this, Tenali Rama picked up a grain of sand in his hand and blew it into the man’s eyes.

Have you seen how you are always running behind desires, hoping that their fulfilment will bring you happiness? And in this chase, you are unable to enjoy what you already have. These desires are like the sand particles in the eye which do not let you perceive the beauty of what you have.
Meditation frees us from this feverishness and washes away these dust particles. It gives us inner freedom and contentment.

#3: Improve Observation, Perception and Expression with Meditation 

Tenali Rama and his wife are deciding on what color to paint their house.

Wife : I want pink!
Tenali : Are you serious? We better leave it white and bright!
Wife : I have made up my mind. I will be happy only with pink.
Tenali (giving her a pair of pink-colored glasses) : Fine. Have it your way. Wear these glasses and not just these walls, even I will be pink!

What was Tenali Rama thinking? Wearing pink glasses does not make the house pink.

Stress colors our perception of reality. As a result, we don’t see things the way they are. This often results in misunderstandings and gives rise to further stress. How does one escape this vicious cycle?
Meditation gives you clarity and the ability to see things the way they are. Observation, perception and expression, all three improve with meditation.
With fewer misunderstandings and communication gaps, staying happy becomes easier.

#4: Save your mind at any cost

Tenali Rama and his wife were going to a friend’s wedding. His wife wore her best sari and jewels.
Suddenly from behind, a bullock cart, totally out of control, came rushing by. Tenali quickly pulls his wife towards himself in an effort to bring her to safety, loses balance and both of them fall into a pit along the road.

Wife (upset): What do you think you were doing? You spoilt my beautiful dress! I can’t go to the wedding like this now!
Tenali : Well, it’s time to buy a new dress then (as he smiles to himself thanking God that she is safe)!

Have you ever been in situations when you have tried to do good but ended up doing something unpleasant? Have you noticed that during such times, you end up feeling bad and blaming yourself? This is because the awareness that at least your intention was good is not always there. Actions are never perfect but intentions can be pure. Through meditation, we are able to cognize the intention and accept the imperfection in the action. This saves our mind and allows us to be happy, come what may.

By Divya Sachdev; based on inputs by Bharathy Harish, Sahaj Samadhi Meditation Expert.

特纳里拉玛快乐的秘诀


特纳里拉玛克里希纳,普遍称为特纳里拉玛是印度十六世纪奢耶那伽罗帝国的诗人。他出生于一个叫特纳里的小镇。因为他非凡的智力光辉和智慧,所以直到今天他还是被众人惦记着。

在生命里什么是我们想要的?我想我们可能有个长长的列表了——举列:要在数学考试得到100分,要学蹦极跳,要让我们的女儿嫁出去。
然而,这些活动的终极目的就是要达到快乐。我们要怎么样才能去活得快乐而不是活着只为了寻找快乐呢?

#1:就在当下,快乐些!

躺在吊床上,享受着温柔的海风,特纳里拉玛的朋友脸上带着无比灿烂的笑容。
特纳里:你为什么自个儿在那里笑啊?
朋友:我在想着有一天我会得到真正的快乐。
特纳里:那是何时呀?
朋友:等到我拥有间在海边的屋子,一辆舒适的车子,客观的银行存款,娶个漂亮的姑娘,有四个孩子,让他们得到好的教育并有份好工作,挣很多的钱。。。
特纳里(打岔了):我有那个概念了,但是到那个时候你要做什么呢?
朋友:我就可以放松和享受那温和的海风和阳光了。
特纳里:可是我的朋友呀,你这不是在享受着这些了吗?为什么你还要去做那些苦工呢?

你观察到一直以来我们是怎么样去延迟我们的快乐吗?
就譬如说你现在在学校,你就想说“如果我毕业了,我就会快乐!”然后就是学院,工作,接着就是列表里的一萝萝。你满足了一个欲望,那是暂时性的快乐,然后不自觉的你就开始去别的地方寻找快乐了——“如果我找到了我梦寐以求的伴侣我就会快乐”,接着就“如果我升级了我就会很快乐”,然后整个圈圈就这样继续下去。

 

 快乐并不是在未来!去想想你可以在昨天或是明天快乐吗?
你只能去策划它但是你现在就可以快乐了呀!对吧?我们要如何尽一切能力并在生命里得到快乐,又或者是一样接着一样的去做为了是寻找快乐?静心就是你的答案。静心让你的心智回到当下,这就是快乐的所在,这也是给你力量去用微笑来面对每一个时刻。

#2: 对你所拥有的感到知足

 有一次特纳里拉玛在路边看到一个男人在头上拿着一个又大又圆的盾
牌,往太阳的方向遮挡。在好奇心的驱使下,特纳里问这个人他要做些什么。

特纳里:你在做什么呀?
男人:我在尝试把太阳遮起来,因为它太亮了。
特纳里:你为什么要那么麻烦自己呢?我有个简单的解决方法。
说完后,特纳里就捡起一把沙并把它往那男人的眼里吹。

你看到了你平时是怎么样跟着欲望跑,并期望着它们可以带给你快乐吗?在追逐里,你是不能享受你所拥有的东西的。这些欲望就像是在眼睛里的沙,他们会遮挡你去看到你现有的美好事物。
静心让你远离这些激昂,并把你眼里的沙洗净。
它让你得到内在的自由和满足。


#3:  让静心提高观察力,感知力和表达能力

 特纳里拉玛和他的太太在讨论要为屋子漆上什么颜色。

太太:我要粉红色!
特纳里:你是认真的吗?我们还是保留白色和亮色吧!
太太:我已经决定了!我就是要粉红色我才会快乐!
特纳里(交给太太一副粉红眼镜):那好吧!就照着你的意思吧!
你就戴上这副眼镜吧!现在不只是墙壁是粉红色的了,连我也变成粉红色的了!!

特纳里在想什么呀?!带上粉红的眼镜并不会把屋子变成粉红色吧。

压力让我们的感知染上了颜色。结果我们就看不到事情原来的样子了。这通常会造成很大的误会,进而造成更进一步的压力。一个人要怎么样才能跳出这个框框呢?
静心让你的视线变得清晰,让你可以看到事情原来的样子。观察力,感知力和表达能力也因为静心而改善。
结果误会和沟通的距离就减少了,这样我们比较容易保持快乐。

#4: 不惜代价的保住你的心智


特纳里和太太要去出席朋友的婚宴。他的太太穿上了最好的莎丽服和珠宝。
突然间一辆牛车从后边以很快的速度冲向他们,特纳里急忙把太太拉向自己的方向以确保她的安全。结果却因此失去平衡而双双跌进路边的坑里。

太太(很伤心的说):你以为你在做些什么呀?!你糟蹋了我漂亮的衣服!我不能这样去出席婚宴啊!
特纳里:那好吧,是买新衣裳的时候了!(他笑着说道,并在心里默默感谢神让他的太太安全了)

你可有察觉到有些时候明明你是想把事情做好的,但它却在最后变得很不堪?你有没有发现在这样的时候,你会感觉很糟糕并开始指责自己。这是因为你对你自己原先的好意并没有足够的认知。行动是永远都不会完美的,但是我们的用意却可以是很纯净的。通过静心,我们可以认清我们的用意,并接受行动的不完美。这拯救了我们的心智并让我们快乐,让一切该来的都来吧!

文来自迪夫雅(Divya Sachdev),依据巴哈第(Bharathy Harish,三摩地静心专家)的输入。

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